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Take 2

Got a faint line on the OPK last night and then a positive this morning.  At 8am I called the RE to make an appt for my IUI on Wednesday.  Gave all my info and she said she’d call me back with the appt time.  I asked them to call me at work and hit the road.  At 9:45 I still hadn’t heard from them, so I called again and gave my name and was told “oh, you already have an appt”.  Really?  I have an appointment?  Well, I’d really appreciate if someone told me what time so I could, you know, actually BE THERE.  Ok, I didn’t actually say it like that, but I managed to get my point across and was transferred to the nurse.

Nurse tells me appointment time is 10-10:30.  Ok, was hoping for something earlier, but we can do that.  Then she asks me if I’m bringing my own sample.  Umm, no. You are storing my sample in your city office and the Dr. told us during our initial consult that she will transport the samples from the city office herself.  Nurse tells me she will check with the Dr. and if the Dr. can’t transport then they will look into a courier.  I ask her to please call me with pricing if they need to do that because if I have to schlep all over town for the IUI I’d rather save the $ and go to the city office.  She agrees to call me back.

11:45am I still haven’t heard back from them so I call again.  I get transferred to the same nurse who assures me that the Dr. will transport our sample herself and everything is set for 10 am tomorrow in the suburban office.

So, the 2nd batch of “making a cupcake” is about to commence.

Worst cramps of my life

Someone mentioned that starting TTC made their menstural cramps worse.  And I can tell you that seems to be the case for me.   Usually I have about 1.5 days of cramping in my abdomen and lower back.  Relieved by 3 ibuprofen every 6 hours.  Well, Saturday followed that pattern and then Sunday morning at 4am I was awoken my the most excruciating cramps of my life.  It was too soon to take more ibuprofen, I had to wait until 5.  At 5, I ate a granola bar, drank a glass of milk and took them.  An hour later I was still in agony.  Took 2 extra strength tylenol.  Still in agony, heating pad helped a bit, but was still in pain on and off all day.  Popping the 3 ibuprofen every 6 hrs.  And again this morning at 5, after my last dose wore off I was awoken by the pain.  Another trip to the kitchen for milk, granola bar, and pills in the dark.  It’s now the 3rd full day of pain.  And yes, I can still feel the cramps through the meds. I am NOT HAPPY about this.  Strawberry and I think that this, along with the symptoms that I had during the 2WW (I didn’t mention the nausea, hypersensitivity to smell, or fatigue), confirms that I did indeed conceive but that it didn’t stick.  I’m not concerned, since I think it just means my body knows what’s good to keep and what’s bad to get rid of.  Even so, OUCH!

Guest post by Nutella’s body parts in reaction to their BFN

Nips: WTF uterus?  I’ve been waiting 31 years to fulfill my destiny and FINALLY I start getting the signals I’ve been waiting for and now you go and start spotting like it’s nothing? 

Uterus: Oh, oops, my bad, not pregnant, was just testing you, ha ha!  Good job on the piercing needle sensation though.

Brain: Ok you two, break it up.  Let’s just take a few moments to review. Uterus, you started sending signals and nips, you responded just like you should.  Good job team!  Sorry we didn’t win it this time, but hey, next round is coming up and we need to be on our game, ok?  Now, hit the showers, drinks are on me.

Post-Script by Strawberry’s Brain and Taste Buds: Dude, homemade buttercream frosting is an awesome comfort food.

Not much going on

“Worked from home” Friday afternoon after my clients left the building.  Which means I got to go to the local SSA office and change my name with them.  Compared to the multi-trip DMV stuff it was a piece of cake.

Weekend was lovely and relaxing.  Tylenol does NOTHING for a sinus headache. I’m 9DPO and aside from my left nipple feeling like someone has stuck hot needles thru it I feel completely normal.  In all likelihood I’ll test on Friday, if I haven’t started my period yet.

Question for you BBT charting folks

Ok, so I did a bad thing during my first 2WW. I opened the Brill book. Even though I’d read the thing cover to cover already. I flipped back to the section on charting and BBT. And what I found has FREAKED ME OUT.

“We rarely see conception occur in people who have a BBT lower than 97.3.” p 236

I have always had a lower than average body temperature. I almost never pass 99 when I’m sick. In the months that I have been charting my BBT, prior to O is usually in the 96’s After O it has never gone above 98.3. Coverline is typically 97.1. Brill seems to suggest that this indicates a thyroid problem. The paper charts at the back of the Weschler book don’t even go below 97. I actually had a PCP mention a concern about my thyroid about 7 years ago and at that time I had all the blood tests done and everything checked out normal. But still, it’s FREAKING ME OUT.

So, a question for all of you that track your BBT. What is usually your lowest, highest, and coverline temp? If you do not temp orally, please indicate that as well.

Oh, and for those following along at home, I am 5DPO and could not feel more normal.

Go team!

Well, I’m all spermed up.  Temp was still low this morning and OPK went from positive to faint thru the day yesterday, so our 10am IUI this morning was perfectly timed.

After some quality couple time this morning, Strawberry and I headed to the city office of our RE.  The waiting room was full, but as I signed in I heard someone behind the counter say my name and I spoke up to announce my presence.  Right away I was called back and ushered into the first exam room.  My sample was all ready to go and Dr B, who we’d never met, introduced himself and put us totally at ease.  With a gentle manner and a very reassuring tone, I was put in the stirrups and talked thru the IUI.  I was advised against emptying my bladder, as the IUI would be easier with it slightly full if I have an anterior uterus, as the majority of women do.

The speculum went in with some pressure, but was no more uncomfortable than usual.  And it turns out, I have a VERY anterior uterus, so that’s good to know.  Next thing we knew, there was a faint squelching sound as our swimmers were launched.  I remarked on the sound, and we all had a chuckle.  All done, the speculum was removed and we were left alone to rest.

5 minutes later there was a knock on the door.  I thought they were kicking us out already and was a bit surprised, but it turned out to be our RE, Dr. A.  She’d been expecting us but had been with another patient when we arrived.  By the time she finished and came to collect our sample, Dr. B was all done!  She stayed to answer a few of our questions and assured us that the sample was excellent.  She wished us luck and said that if needed, we should call when I begin my next cycle.  I experienced no pain or cramping and we stayed in the room another 15 minutes before heading out to pay up and leave.

Overall, it was a much simpler and more pleasant experience than everything else we’ve dealt with this week, and I am feeling hopeful and relieved.  Oh, and it cost about $50 less than they had quoted me, which was nice.

So now, Eagle Scout, it’s time to earn that merit badge!  Swim, swim, swim!

Reactions to my awful afternoon

Hi everyone, thanks for your kind words and wishes on my ordeal yesterday.  I shared with you the series of events, but not my feelings on the matter.  I’ll sum it up in one word.


I am angry beyond belief that I am being required to get these tests done, and that the RE didn’t tell me to get them done 3 MONTHS ago when we saw her.  She didn’t even apologize.  Refused to even admit that she didn’t tell me to get them done.  It isn’t worth my time or effort to argue that issue, so I let it go.  We thought we had done everything right and on time and then this gets thrown at us.  Sure fire way to upset, stress, and freak out a needlephobe?  Surprise her with mandatory blood work.  Not only that, but mandatory UNNECESSARY blood work.  But that’s a whole separate issue.

I am feeling much saner today, although still freaking out about the blood draw.  I’m so relieved that I won’t have to face it alone.  Strawberry and I will share a nice lunch then go to the lab together.  And I will ask to lay down this time.  I will have chocolate ready and waiting for when I’m done.

As expected, had an almost positive OPK at 9:30 pm last night and a positive a 7am this morning, so it looks like the timing will be fine with the Saturday morning IUI.  I am resigned and fairly calm, but really, I think this month will end up being a practice run.


You are never gonna believe the day I’ve had.

Warning: This is LONG


Yesterday I got the final court order for my name change in the mail. For those of your just hearing about this, I’m taking Strawberry’s last name and making my last name my new middle name. Not a big deal, but a big PITA. Anyway, I intended to stop by the motor vehicle office (MVA) that’s 2 min from my office this afternoon to change my driver license and perhaps my title and registration, if I had time.


On the TTC front, I brought 2 OPK’s to work with the intention of testing at 11 and again at 3. At 11 I did the first one and got a faint line. If my body follows its typical pattern, this means that I would get a darker line in the afternoon and a positive late tonight. After lunchtime I called the RE’s office to make an appt for a Friday afternoon IUI. After some convincing, the nurse gave me an appt for 3pm in the suburban office. Turns out, they normally only do IUI’s in the morning.


At 1:45 I headed over to the MVA and got a number. There were 31 numbers ahead of mine for new driver’s licenses. Good thing I brought a book. As I was sitting and waiting, the following sequence of events occurred:


2:12- Nurse calls. She can’t find the results of my STD screening tests in their system. I tell her that the RE never asked me to have them done, but that I had done the CMV screen on my own. She is dumbfounded and seems to imply that I can’t get inseminated without having the screening done. She’s going to call the RE and call me right back. I hang up, panic ensues.


2:19- RE calls, and I run out to the vestibule of the MVA. Haven’t I had STD tests done in the last year? No. Why didn’t I get them done? Um you didn’t tell me to, I got the CMV done because I wanted to know for picking a donor. Do I feel comfortable going thru with the IUI without them? Of course! Well, then she will draw the blood for the tests when I am in the office for my IUI. (Cue hysterical deep breathing Nutella) Here’s where I try to calmly explain how much of a needlephobe I am and how this would be a VERY BAD IDEA. I ask if I can get them done at the lab near me today and she agrees, takes the name and location of the lab and ends the call. I stand in the vestibule and will myself not to cry.


2:22- I run out to my car dialing Strawberry at work to tell her the whole saga. With her on hands-free I start the car and head off to the lab about 10 min away. She looks up their hours and reassures me that they are open until 4pm. I will have to do the blood draw alone. I begin the psych myself up for it when call waiting beeps.


2:25- The nurse needs to clarify which lab location I am headed to. I clarify; she has the lab order ready to fax.


2:29 As I am almost at the lab building, the nurse calls again. Turns out TODAY ONLY the lab is closing at 1pm. So I ask her for the address of the other lab in the same suburb and she gives it to me. I ask her to please fax it to that location. At a traffic light I pull out my map book and try to plot the best route.


2:32- The nurse calls again to tell me that lab #2 also closed at 1pm TODAY ONLY. I pull off the road. After a chat with the nurse we decide to move the IUI to Saturday morning in the city office, and I will go to the lab closest to my work for the required STD tests on Friday. Resigned to this turn of events I head back to the MVA.


2:50- There are still 16 numbers ahead of me at the MVA. I wait and read and finally I am called and I leave with my new license at 4:10.


Back at work, I miraculously have no voice mails or emails. OPK at 4:30 shows a darker line, but still not positive.


Now, I’m off to the airport to pick up our houseguest. Ah, the excitement that is my life.



Timing is Everything

Question for people out there using IUI- how soon after the surge (double line on the OPK) are you doing (or planning on doing) the IUI?

We’ve seen conflicting information and research studies on this, so I’m wondering what you’ve heard. Links to sources would be much appreciated, too. Thank you!!

– Strawberry

It’s the final countdown

So, I started spotting today right on schedule.  CD1 (Cycle Day 1 for those not familiar with the TTC lingo) should be Saturday or Sunday.  Which means ovulation should be between June 11 and June 15.  And we have a house guest staying June 12-15.  And it’s Pride weekend with celebratory activities scheduled for Thursday evening, Saturday afternoon and evening, and Sunday day.  Oh, yeah and that Sunday is Father’s Day with my dad 45 min away in one direction and Strawberry’s dad 45 min in the other direction.  Fortunately, we are very open with eveyone about our priorites for the weekend so fitting in the IUI at the Dr’s office shouldn’t be a problem.  Although, I guess this means I really ought to figure out the procedure for a weekend IUI. I think they only do them at the downtown office as opposed to the suburban office where we’ve been. On a weekend that shouldn’t be a problem for us, and hey, I could end up having my first IUI on Gay Pride day. That’s got to be a good thing, right?