My goal was to do this every 6 months…fill out the categories below that describe how Curly is doing and growing and changing. Apparently I haven’t been so good at it. I thought the last one I did was at 2 years, but it seems it was at 18 months. And I forgot to do it right at 2 1/2, although it’s not too far past that point so I’m doing it now.
Anyway, here’s Curly at uh, 31 months…
- Describe what and how your child eats: He’s still a very good eater, and we don’t typically have problems in this area. He likes dairy, meat & poultry, fruit and grains…with the occasional vegetable thrown in. He has his toddler periods of rejecting formerly beloved foods, like bananas or bread rolls, only to welcome them back a couple days or weeks later. And then we’ll have surprising moments like at the farmer’s market this past weekend, when he turned down an offer of an apple slice only to want to eat a raw Brussels sprout (wtf?), but then proceed to eat nearly an entire whole apple later on, including part of the core. Anyway. His favorite dinners remain chicken shawarma with hummus or the little meatballs with lingonberry jam from IKEA.
- Does your child have any sleep problems? “No, as long as he has darkness and quiet, he’s good (so he doesn’t nap too well at daycare).” That was my answer from 18 months and it remains the same. He typically goes to bed at 7pm and sleeps until 7am. He takes a 2-3 hour nap at home, 1 hour at daycare. He will not nap anywhere but his crib/cot or Peapod tent and it really does need to be dark and quiet/white noise.
Activity and Motor Development
- Describe your child’s gross and fine motor skills (how he moves around, grabs things, etc.). He is great at walking, running, climbing and jumping. He has clumsy moments. He handles stairs like a pro, alternating feet. He uses utensils 50% of the time and is good with lidless cups most of the time. He likes to clean his own face, hands, and table area with a napkin. He can thread beads and put small pegs in holes. Can do simple puzzles, but doesn’t have much attention for them. He doesn’t draw pictures yet, just scribbles, lines and the occasional circle…although he will tell us what he is drawing (boats, animals, etc).
Social Skills and Environment
- What can your child do for himself? He can take off pretty much all articles of clothing, including shoes. He has more trouble putting things on, but he tries. He clearly knows how to pee and poop in the potty and is further along with potty training than we figured he would be by now (woo!), although most of the time he doesn’t let us know when he needs to go and we have to ‘catch it.’ He’s sometimes unsure of himself and can get easily frustrated and ask for help with some tasks, but for the most part he manages. Not brushing his teeth well by himself at this point. He likes throwing out trash.
- Can your child follow simple directions? Yes, although he usually has to be talked into helping clean up his toys. He’s also great at doing things in a group/doing what other kids are.
- How does your child react to family outings and visitors? “Loves new places, very interested in people but can be a little shy with people he doesn’t know. When he’s shy, he clings to one of his moms.” This is the same as 18 months. He is getting better with talking to new people once he’s had a chance to warm up to them.
- If your child is in daycare/school, how does your child handle it? “He loves going to daycare and has a lot of fun. He eats well but sometimes has trouble napping. Likes his teachers and the other children.” Same as 18 months, and we’re thrilled we don’t have to worry about The Biter anymore.
- Describe how your child copes with discomfort, frustration, or other distress: If he’s hurt himself, he’ll cry and run to one of us for comfort. Otherwise, usually he just whines, sucks his thumb, gives up, or on a more rare occasion, have a tantrum. Those are few and far between now, and within a minute or two of having a time-out, he can usually calm himself down and ‘re-set.’ He’s on the much more passive side of coping, although we have witnessed him push another child or steal a toy when particularly riled up.
Language and Communication
- Describe your child’s language abilities: At this point, he says anywhere from 1-6 word phrases, with most phrases between 2 and 5 words. His language has always been slower than his peers, but he seems to be catching up. Some words are still a guessing game, but he can get his point across eventually. He doesn’t really sign anymore, just sporadically. He often repeats what we say, asks ‘what’s that?’ and really listens to the answer.
Toys and Play
- List your child’s favorite toys and describe how he plays with them: He loves building with his Legos and playing with train sets. He likes stickers and looking through books. We’re at the stage of needing to do a toy purge of old things and making room for new, more age-appropriate toys (good timing with the holidays coming up). We think he’s ready for more imaginative toys, like Little People and more Lego sets.
- Does your child have a lovey? Nope, he prefers sucking his thumb to soothe himself. He does like to sleep with his stuffed bear, puppy and sometimes Elmo at night.
- Does your child play with other children? Yes…it’s a 60/40 split between independent play and playing with other children respectively. He likes to do what bigger kids are doing (or try to). He talks to other kids and likes to run around with them.
Feelings and Moods
- Describe your child’s range of feelings (comfort, discomfort, pleasure, joy, anger, affection, fear, hostility, depression / sadness) and how he expresses them: Overall he is happy and has a good sense of humor. He is the definition of ‘slow to warm up’, but once he does, he’s cheerful and boisterous. He is a very sweet kid…not really a cuddler, but will definitely give hugs and kisses when asked (and sometimes out of the blue), and can be very charming. At times he can also be highly sensitive, and small things can knock him out of whack for a bit.
- What is likely to upset your child? Taking something away from him, blocking him from going somewhere, telling him he has to clean up his toys.
- What makes him feel better? Giving him what he wants (ha!) or letting him know he will get it back later, giving him a hug or kissing a boo boo, taking him away from the situation so he can re-set.
- How many teeth? All of his baby teeth are in. His last 2-year molar came in several months ago. Overall, teething hasn’t been bad for him…just a few difficult ones.
- In what ways, if any, does your child behave aggressively toward you, his siblings, his playmates, or others? He’s not very aggressive. The worst we usually see is pushing/shoving, and that’s reserved for playmates.
- Does your child have a strong preference for one parent? No, he seems to be equally attached to us both, although at times he’ll prefer one mom to do a specific task over the other mom.
And here’s Curly’s 2.5 year old school photo: