Relief Meet Anxiety

We found a daycare.

We are so very relieved at this. It was the 4th home daycare we interviewed, having called a total of 14 places and interviewed 1 of 2 nannies we made contact with (the nanny was good, but more expensive and we preferred a home daycare anyway). When we arrived at the daycare yesterday, we met all (or nearly all) of the children there, including a 6 month old girl, 1 year old boy, a toddler boy and 2 toddler girls. They all seemed happy and active. There was a sunken living room area for them to play in, lots of toys and books around. The house was clean and babyproofed. Each baby had their own crib to sleep in next door to the living room. The woman whose house it was has two teenaged daughters, both of whom we met, and are lovely and also help out with the kids from time to time after school. But there is also another full-time staff person who was just leaving as we arrived.

Curly crawled around, inspecting the toys and books, and watching the other children. The woman kept remarking on how cute and good he was (not one of our reasons for going with this place lol). She exuded a warm feeling and was very sweet with the kids, and cuddly with the 6 month old. She allows drop-ins and made every effort to make us feel comfortable and welcome. We knew it was the place we wanted almost immediately. She also requires that each new child begins with a “trial” period, starting off with an hour or two at a time, moving to a half day, and then to a full day. Since I get a lot of time off for the winter holidays, this works out perfectly.

Now the hard parts… I am feeling anxious about him starting daycare, like most parents are. I know it will be good for him and am so relieved at having found a good, stable situation. It’s just going to be a huge change. He won’t be able to take his 3 naps in peace & quiet during the day…the kids usually take one long afternoon nap at this place. Knowing what a mess Curly turns into when he’s tired (and that’s still pretty often), I’m worried about how it will be for him and hope that he’s able to change his schedule in the way that’s needed. As the daycare provider said, usually the kids are tired at the time of pick-up and want to nap when they get home. That means seeing even less of him than we already do. I worry about him getting sick, which he definitely will now that he’ll be around many other kids. He’s only been mildly sick once or twice in his 7 months, so I’m imagining him coming down will all sorts of bugs now.

Finally, there’s the grandma situation. We’ll be paying for daycare 5 days a week. Curly will need time to get used to the new schedule and the new place. This won’t work if he is watched by one grandma at our place one day, then goes to daycare a few days, then is watched by the other grandma another day, then weekends with us. So this has to stop to allow Curly to adjust as quickly as he can or he will constantly be backpeddling and out-of-whack. With Curly at daycare, needing naps when we pick him up, and the mommies no longer working from home once a week while watching him, we’re going to be missing him like CRAZY. We’re going to want to spend our weekends focusing on him as much as possible. And the grandmas (and grandpas) will be missing him, too, but will have to understand when we need our time together as a family of 3. It’s going to be a huge adjustment for everyone.

So anyway, that’s where we stand. Relieved, anxious, satisfied, empty, happy, sad….such is parenthood.

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9 responses to “Relief Meet Anxiety

  1. Good luck to all of you with the day care situation. I think it’s harder on the parents than it is on the kids!

  2. So glad to hear you’ve found somewhere you like. The missing the little one is hard but if you know he’s getting good care and is really loved by the person who’s taking care of him that helps. And your weekends will be so wonderful and you’ll work out the time with grandparents/friends/each other.

  3. Well, I’m glad to hear you found a place that will work, even though it must be so hard to find yourselves spending less time with him. Good luck to all of you during the adjustment period!

  4. What a relief to have found a daycare that you’re comfortable with!! I hope that your concerns are alleviated with time…

  5. babysitters work miracles. theo NEVER napped before going to our sitters last November. she got him on a schedule lickety-split, and then this year, managed to totally change his napping schedule. miles will do great! what a relief that you found somewhere you find comfortable leaving him-even if it does come with stressful change!

  6. No doubt this will be an adjustment and easing him in is a great idea. Holland also needs a lot of naps and has slept just fine at daycare. It’s so important that you guys feel good about this place. It’s definitely harder on us than them

  7. wishinghopingpraying

    I am so happy you found a place you feel good about! Miles will self-adjust his schedule when he starts there. He will be so busy playing he will easily drop his morning nap, I swear it. I have seen it happen. He may be a little cranky at night or fall asleep early until he gets used to the new program but he will adjust pretty quickly.

  8. Good luck!

  9. I’m so glad you were able to find a place that you like, but I totally understand the anxiety. Its the hardest thing, but I think the others are right and he’ll adjust quickly. Best of luck!

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