Hello Darkness, my old friend


  • The unceasing generosity of family and friends who keep bringing us food and offering to do other things for us. You all rock.
  • Active, alert periods of sheer baby cuteness
  • Going outside for some sunshine for the first time in a while yesterday
  • Trying out the Ultimate Baby Wrap with success
  • Having enough milk to feed the baby (and then some) and having the right kind of diaper output
  • The support of our internet community of friends, complete with expertise on baby matters
  • Our dog continuing to be well-behaved despite having a little jealousy towards this new, screaming thing
  • Good television shows from 11pm through 3am
  • Laptop computers and extension cords
  • Zippered onesies (edited: SLEEPERS, the kind with feet.)


  • No shower in a few days, ugh.
  • No time or available hands to really stay connected on the internet (something like 200+ unread Google Reader posts, sorry)
  • Pee gysers when changing diapers, especially when the outfit and changing pad get soaked through
  • Swollen, tingly feet that make it hard to walk. Still.
  • Finally getting to see The Business of Being Born and crying because we were unable to have the birth we wanted
  • A lactation consultant with the flu who isn’t available to help when you most need her
  • Front and back lawns that have turned into jungles
  • Unwanted advice, overstepped boundaries and stress not stemming from the baby
  • Not being able to sleep together much because of tag-teaming at night
  • The baby not being able to sleep on his back due to gas
  • Bad tv at 4 in the morning
  • Snap onesies (edited: SLEEPERS, the kind with feet.)


  • Nipple injury
  • Stitches and hemorrhoids
  • Unconsolable sobbing at various wee hours of the morning (sometimes baby, sometimes moms)

26 responses to “Hello Darkness, my old friend

  1. Cute onesies— I have them all, stocked up for the future. 🙂

  2. So sorry about the ugly catagory! It sounds like there is a mix of emotions, which I would guess is completely normal! He is a beautiful boy and that pic of him screaming is actually kind of cute, in a oh-my-goodness sort of way. 🙂

  3. I love that you posted a photo of him screaming! He really is precious. Zippered over snap, huh? I did not know that….
    Sounds like you have your hands full. I hope the good soon outweighs the bad.

  4. Isn’t it funny how life can be summed up in song lyrics/titles right now? Last night I kept thinking my next blog will be titled “all through the night” since the baby decided to be alert from 7pm to 3am and almost all of it on my shift.

    Good luck, I hear it gets better…

  5. You should be getting something in the mail to (maybe) help with geysers. Ahhh, little boys.

  6. What great lists! Such fun things to look forward to in a few weeks (good and bad) 🙂 Interesting about the zip up onesies – I’m not sure I’ve seen those.

    But most of all.. MILES!! HE’S SO CUTE!! Enjoy every minute of the good, bad and ugly as it goes so quick! (Or so I’ve been told) 🙂

  7. oh, those cheeks are too adorable! and the crying picture is great! 😉

    sorry to read about the ugly category, sounds scary – eek.

  8. first, he’s beautiful (even when he’s screaming). Sounds like it’s an overwhelming time, in all ways! You two moms are doing beautifully.

  9. Hi ladies,
    I’ve been following your blog for a while now and thought I would “de-lurk” to recommended the pee pee teepee! http://www.uncommongoods.com/item/item.jsp?itemId=13271
    I haven’t used them personally but I have heard good things from other mothers. Hope they help!

  10. wishinghopingpraying

    He is just gorgeous. I am sorry about the ugly stuff. Sending my love and support your way.

  11. I hear you sisters. That first few days/weeks of adjusting to life with the new baby was a blur of wonderfulness and difficulty all rolled up in a sleepy fog. I like to think that the tough parts sort of live somewhere far away in my brain that I can’t access any more.

    Sounds like he’s peeing during the changes (and pee is good) but our friend Emly gave us priceless advice that we’d never have thought of ourselves for those majority of hours when the diaper is on. “Pencil up ladies” she’d say. So true.

    Zippered sleep pjs are the best. I was so sick of snapping him up wrong and basically jostling him back awake every time I’d try to change him.

    Like every one else here, I have to tell you two that your son is really really handsome. Those eyes! I can tell he’s stolen your hearts forever. Hope you have a wonderful weekend. -Monica (et al)

  12. Thinking of you 3 as you wade through the first few days together.

  13. Sending love and hugs to you all. I am sorry about teh ugly too. Oh, and we don’t get zippered sleepers here in the UK (unless you mean grobags? http://www.gro.co.uk/grobags.aspx)… you are LUCKY! What a lovely baby. xx

  14. Hang in there – most of the bad and the ugly turns good pretty quick. You may well be stuck with the unwanted assvice, but the swollen feet DO return to normal eventually!

  15. I have to say that one of the things that really stressed me the first week after Theo was born was the unmowed lawn. I couldn’t stand it. I let it slip to someone who told my mom, who finally came over and did it for us.
    Stupid but true.

  16. wow, he is so cute! I’d come over and mow your lawn for you, but we live kinda far… lol. Maybe there is a teenager boy around who can do it for you, (do they still do that?? lol)…
    I loved the pictures, he is amazingly cute, even when he is screaming… =) You’ll get into your groove soon, everything will come together, you’ll see.. I have faith that you can handle it!!

  17. Next in Line

    Oh my gosh so much is going on! From what I hear this is how it goes for the first little while and then everything settles down. Miles looks amazing. You two will one day get enough sleep and stitches will heal. All my love.

  18. okseriouslyreally

    Sounds like your world has been turned upside down! In mostly a good way 🙂 Miles is adorable – beyond adorable. Sorry to hear about the ugliness – hopefully those items will go away soon. Take care of each other – it sounds like you are doing great!


  19. He is so adorable (just checked in today)! I totally agree about the zipper sleepers! They made life so much easier, especially in cold weather. Congrats to you all-I promise the crying will end soon! 🙂

  20. reproducinggenius

    Oh, ladies, it does sound like you’re facing all kinds of challenges right now. Hang in there. It sounds like you’re doing the very best that you can, and I bet you all will find your groove in no time. For now, remember to breathe, and know we’re all out here rooting you and your gorgeous baby on. xoxo

  21. I guess it’s not all rainbows and unicorns is it? Wait, don’t answer that or I may change my mind about this whole ttc thing. 😉 JK.

    I suspect that there is a lot of trauma and difficult adjustment in the first few weeks after the birth that they just don’t show on those happy little diaper and baby shampoo commercials.

    I am glad you have a strong support system to help you through and I hope that makes the tough spots a little more managable.

  22. I am sure there are many moments that are hard. I hope they only get better and better. Your baby is so beautiful even when he cries. And know that we are hoping for the very best for all three of you….

  23. But, lawdy, he’s cute.

    It gets better. I promise.

  24. Awwwww.. he’s just precious!! PRECIOUS!!!

  25. He’s so cute… I hope things settle down for you soon!

    I also really really wanted to know about the sleeper with the polka dots on it in the first picture – we’ve found a lot of Circo clothing online that we like and are putting it on our registry, but we’ve never seen it in person. How is the quality in person? And are the sizes true to age? I’m curious as to what size is Mr Miles wearing above, as we’re trying to decide if we should only get 3m size or if we should bother with the 0-3 months.

  26. That is, besides the obvious fact that they are snap and not zippered. 🙂

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