Daily Archives: September 2, 2008

Telling people (or not)

It’s a very touchy subject, telling people you’re pregnant. Everyone has their own thoughts on the matter- some people tell everyone right away, some people don’t tell until after the first trimester, and I think most people fall somewhere in between (though I could be wrong). We’ve already told our parents…we told them when we saw the positive, warning them not to get too excited (yeah, right). Shortly thereafter, we told our sisters (we each have one). As for the blog, we announced it when we got the positive blood test. After that, it was a guessing game as to whom that we know in real life reads our blog.

Most of our friends who read the news on the blog we knew about. There were maybe one or two surprises, but certainly not shocking ones. After we went to our first appointment, when we saw the gest. sac, yolk sac, and fetal pole, we told Nutella’s grandparents. I admit, I’m closer to them than my own and we really wanted to tell them together in person. Then the news-telling came to a screeching halt.

We are most likely measuring at 6 weeks, 5 days today…depending on how the little overachiever is doing now. When I think about that, I think wow, that’s early. Certainly it’s not smart to keep divulging to people at this point…right? When I research, “they” say that when you are able to see a gestational sac, a yolk sac, and a fetal pole, you’re good to go. Got a heartbeat? Even better. At that point, you’ve got something like a 95% chance of everything being fine. As of our last appointment, that’s where we stand.

However, there has been some heart-wrenching and frightening news in our TTC blog world recently that made us catch our breath. Horrible things happening, sometimes beyond when they’re “supposed” to, and our hearts ache for these people. And it makes us wary.

So far when asked point-blank, we’ve just been saying “we’re working on it”, but that leads to scrutinizing looks. We’re planning on telling more people (friends and relatives) after our next appointment if everything still looks ok. We should have a measurable heartbeat, a Sprinkle that looks more like a blob than a pole, and everything should have grown a bit bigger. The appointment is around our 7 week, 3 day mark. But wow…that’s still early. Sigh.