Monthly Archives: June 2008

Reactions to my awful afternoon

Hi everyone, thanks for your kind words and wishes on my ordeal yesterday.  I shared with you the series of events, but not my feelings on the matter.  I’ll sum it up in one word.


I am angry beyond belief that I am being required to get these tests done, and that the RE didn’t tell me to get them done 3 MONTHS ago when we saw her.  She didn’t even apologize.  Refused to even admit that she didn’t tell me to get them done.  It isn’t worth my time or effort to argue that issue, so I let it go.  We thought we had done everything right and on time and then this gets thrown at us.  Sure fire way to upset, stress, and freak out a needlephobe?  Surprise her with mandatory blood work.  Not only that, but mandatory UNNECESSARY blood work.  But that’s a whole separate issue.

I am feeling much saner today, although still freaking out about the blood draw.  I’m so relieved that I won’t have to face it alone.  Strawberry and I will share a nice lunch then go to the lab together.  And I will ask to lay down this time.  I will have chocolate ready and waiting for when I’m done.

As expected, had an almost positive OPK at 9:30 pm last night and a positive a 7am this morning, so it looks like the timing will be fine with the Saturday morning IUI.  I am resigned and fairly calm, but really, I think this month will end up being a practice run.


You are never gonna believe the day I’ve had.

Warning: This is LONG


Yesterday I got the final court order for my name change in the mail. For those of your just hearing about this, I’m taking Strawberry’s last name and making my last name my new middle name. Not a big deal, but a big PITA. Anyway, I intended to stop by the motor vehicle office (MVA) that’s 2 min from my office this afternoon to change my driver license and perhaps my title and registration, if I had time.


On the TTC front, I brought 2 OPK’s to work with the intention of testing at 11 and again at 3. At 11 I did the first one and got a faint line. If my body follows its typical pattern, this means that I would get a darker line in the afternoon and a positive late tonight. After lunchtime I called the RE’s office to make an appt for a Friday afternoon IUI. After some convincing, the nurse gave me an appt for 3pm in the suburban office. Turns out, they normally only do IUI’s in the morning.


At 1:45 I headed over to the MVA and got a number. There were 31 numbers ahead of mine for new driver’s licenses. Good thing I brought a book. As I was sitting and waiting, the following sequence of events occurred:


2:12- Nurse calls. She can’t find the results of my STD screening tests in their system. I tell her that the RE never asked me to have them done, but that I had done the CMV screen on my own. She is dumbfounded and seems to imply that I can’t get inseminated without having the screening done. She’s going to call the RE and call me right back. I hang up, panic ensues.


2:19- RE calls, and I run out to the vestibule of the MVA. Haven’t I had STD tests done in the last year? No. Why didn’t I get them done? Um you didn’t tell me to, I got the CMV done because I wanted to know for picking a donor. Do I feel comfortable going thru with the IUI without them? Of course! Well, then she will draw the blood for the tests when I am in the office for my IUI. (Cue hysterical deep breathing Nutella) Here’s where I try to calmly explain how much of a needlephobe I am and how this would be a VERY BAD IDEA. I ask if I can get them done at the lab near me today and she agrees, takes the name and location of the lab and ends the call. I stand in the vestibule and will myself not to cry.


2:22- I run out to my car dialing Strawberry at work to tell her the whole saga. With her on hands-free I start the car and head off to the lab about 10 min away. She looks up their hours and reassures me that they are open until 4pm. I will have to do the blood draw alone. I begin the psych myself up for it when call waiting beeps.


2:25- The nurse needs to clarify which lab location I am headed to. I clarify; she has the lab order ready to fax.


2:29 As I am almost at the lab building, the nurse calls again. Turns out TODAY ONLY the lab is closing at 1pm. So I ask her for the address of the other lab in the same suburb and she gives it to me. I ask her to please fax it to that location. At a traffic light I pull out my map book and try to plot the best route.


2:32- The nurse calls again to tell me that lab #2 also closed at 1pm TODAY ONLY. I pull off the road. After a chat with the nurse we decide to move the IUI to Saturday morning in the city office, and I will go to the lab closest to my work for the required STD tests on Friday. Resigned to this turn of events I head back to the MVA.


2:50- There are still 16 numbers ahead of me at the MVA. I wait and read and finally I am called and I leave with my new license at 4:10.


Back at work, I miraculously have no voice mails or emails. OPK at 4:30 shows a darker line, but still not positive.


Now, I’m off to the airport to pick up our houseguest. Ah, the excitement that is my life.



Timing is Everything

Question for people out there using IUI- how soon after the surge (double line on the OPK) are you doing (or planning on doing) the IUI?

We’ve seen conflicting information and research studies on this, so I’m wondering what you’ve heard. Links to sources would be much appreciated, too. Thank you!!

– Strawberry

Have a cookie

Nutella picked this cookie out of a catered platter at work today.

Tell us, what do you see?


one ringy dingy, two ringy dingy

I hate the phone.  This is very strange, because I am an unusually outgoing and verbal person.  But making cold calls?  Or calling for business?  I hate it.  I have to psych myself up to do it.  The thing is, that I’m amazingly together, communicative and patient.  I have nothing to be afraid of.  It’s bizarre.

With ovulation imminent I finally got my act together and called the RE’s office, since she has yet to respond to my email from Wednesday last week.   After speaking with 4 different people, here’s what I have learned:

For a weekend IUI– If I do not have a positive OPK by Friday afternoon I am to call nurse S in the suburban office.  She will get my paperwork to the city office so that they will be prepared to do a Sunday IUI if necessary.  If I then get my positive OPK on Saturday I am to call the lab in the city who will have my sample ready for a 9:30 am IUI on Sunday in the city office.

Billing for the IUI– They have already confirmed that my insurance will not cover any charges related to the IUI, thus they will not submit it to my insurance company.  Payment in full is due at the time of the IUI.  This will run us between $350 and $500 depending on who knows what.

Responsibility for the late fees on the shipping dewar– The lab is still blaming DHL.  However, they now agree with me that I should be the last person to have to pay for the late fee on the tank.  They haven’t said that they will claim responsibility yet, but they are going to follow up with DHL and call me back tomorrow.  I’m going to be a PITA about this, and I will not give in.  If they can charge me $50 to let a vial thaw then I’m gonna nitpick about this $50

Hello neighbors

I can’t believe we’re going to start trying next week. It’s been somewhat nice being on the sidelines so far…getting as much information as we could from others who are going through the process and have been going through the process for a while. It’s been scary and saddening to see how long and difficult the process has been for people, some of whom we’ve come to know better through the internet and/or in person. It’s been comforting at least to not have to deal with the direct stresses that I see and feel around us….but that time is coming to an end.

I’m excited and hopeful about this right now. And my fingers are crossed tightly that everything will go smoothly. The cynic/realist in me knows that may not be the case however. I’m trying to ignore the cynic for at least a couple months.

What kind of place are we trying to bring a baby into? Very few people who read this blog really know Nutella and I, as we don’t normally share personal details of our lives here. Our intent was to keep this a TTC/pregnancy/baby blog and not gum it up with the daily events in our lives…and I believe we should stick to that. On the other hand, it has been feeling rather impersonal, so I thought I would share a little bit more about us.

The ‘place’ we’re trying to bring a baby into is loving and supportive. That said, one could easily say we are lucky. Nutella and I have our own little house with front and back yards, in a charming neighborhood with lots of friends and friendly neighbors, a decent portion of whom are GLBT and diverse in a myriad of other ways. Our families are supportive of us as people, as lesbians, and as wanna-be parents. I think our parents are going to fight over their first grandchild because they’re all just going to love him/her so much 😉 We both have good jobs with good insurance, and Nutella’s job offers domestic partnership benefits. My job…well, they’re working on it. But my boss(es) are fantastic and they know we’re going to TTC soon and are fully supportive.

Nutella and I will be celebrating our 2 year wedding anniversary the middle of this month (wow, time flies!). Though our marriage is not legal, we are lucky to live in a state that offers 2nd parent adoption and will be taking advantage of that, as well as doing the other necessary protective legal paperwork. We are artistic and creative in many ways and can’t wait to nurture our child in whatever he or she has an interest in, although if it happens to be sports, Nutella may have to watch from the sidelines, as she has no natural athletic ability 😉

Beyond that, if there’s anything anyone out there wants to know, feel free to ask. We enjoy reading many, many of your blogs and wish you all the best of luck no matter where you happen to be on this journey.

– Strawberry