I can’t believe we’re going to start trying next week. It’s been somewhat nice being on the sidelines so far…getting as much information as we could from others who are going through the process and have been going through the process for a while. It’s been scary and saddening to see how long and difficult the process has been for people, some of whom we’ve come to know better through the internet and/or in person. It’s been comforting at least to not have to deal with the direct stresses that I see and feel around us….but that time is coming to an end.
I’m excited and hopeful about this right now. And my fingers are crossed tightly that everything will go smoothly. The cynic/realist in me knows that may not be the case however. I’m trying to ignore the cynic for at least a couple months.
What kind of place are we trying to bring a baby into? Very few people who read this blog really know Nutella and I, as we don’t normally share personal details of our lives here. Our intent was to keep this a TTC/pregnancy/baby blog and not gum it up with the daily events in our lives…and I believe we should stick to that. On the other hand, it has been feeling rather impersonal, so I thought I would share a little bit more about us.
The ‘place’ we’re trying to bring a baby into is loving and supportive. That said, one could easily say we are lucky. Nutella and I have our own little house with front and back yards, in a charming neighborhood with lots of friends and friendly neighbors, a decent portion of whom are GLBT and diverse in a myriad of other ways. Our families are supportive of us as people, as lesbians, and as wanna-be parents. I think our parents are going to fight over their first grandchild because they’re all just going to love him/her so much 😉 We both have good jobs with good insurance, and Nutella’s job offers domestic partnership benefits. My job…well, they’re working on it. But my boss(es) are fantastic and they know we’re going to TTC soon and are fully supportive.
Nutella and I will be celebrating our 2 year wedding anniversary the middle of this month (wow, time flies!). Though our marriage is not legal, we are lucky to live in a state that offers 2nd parent adoption and will be taking advantage of that, as well as doing the other necessary protective legal paperwork. We are artistic and creative in many ways and can’t wait to nurture our child in whatever he or she has an interest in, although if it happens to be sports, Nutella may have to watch from the sidelines, as she has no natural athletic ability 😉
Beyond that, if there’s anything anyone out there wants to know, feel free to ask. We enjoy reading many, many of your blogs and wish you all the best of luck no matter where you happen to be on this journey.