‘When’ is the question

As we’re getting closer to the actual act of “trying” to get pregnant, I find it more and more difficult to answer people when they ask “When?” Because we don’t know how long it will take, we don’t want to give the exact time because then we’re going to have to face the barrage of “Are you pregnant yet?” questions.

We’re being very open with our wonderfully supportive parents and close friends, but with people that fall on the periphery of that…well, it just gets harder to want to give them exact details. We’ve been saying “the summer,” but now the summer is almost upon us (despite it being unseasonably cool and wet as of late). So now we’re saying “the next couple months” but even that lends itself to people inquiring more in detail and more often.

Ah well, it’s just one of those things. It was easier when it was further away to tell various people, but now I find myself not wanting to spill the beans so much.


8 responses to “‘When’ is the question

  1. That’s always tough. You just got to do what feels best for you ladies. Don’t’ worry about anyone else, that’s for sure.

  2. Oh, for cryin’ out loud, people. I *hate* the fact that everyone seems to assume that pregnancy is public territory — once when I was pregnant with Ash, a woman stopped me while crossing a busy street to ask how far along I was and whether she could touch my belly. GURR.

    If I were Miss Manners, I’d come up with a reply that would remind people they’re asking about something extremely private. Best I can think of at this late hour, though, is ‘When the stork gets here.’

    Sorry you have to deal with this.

  3. Mel-

    Well, I don’t mind people asking really, especially when they know that it’s in our plans, but then it’s like I want them to realize there are certain things that maybe aren’t the best etiquette to ask about.

    “When the stork gets here” isn’t bad, especially with regards to alternative family planning 😉

  4. I know what you mean – I kind of regret telling as many people as I did. I feel like a lot of people are holding their breath waiting for the news. One thing I didn’t do is tell people at work, and I’m so relieved. I’d hate to walk into work with the “Are you pregnant yet?” question every day.

    Anyway… soon you’ll be sporting a belly and you can get t-shirts made with your due date on them 😉

  5. Ciaochow-

    It’s a good idea not to tell people at work, I agree. I’ve told my boss, but only because he’s very GLBT friendly and he recently became the father of twins and has shared his trials and tribulations with the rest of us 😉

  6. wow. i totally agree with you not wanting very many people to know. in addition to you being stressed, they also stress you out more with their constant questions.

    tell them it will happen when the timing is right. if they ask more, tell them you aren’t exactly sure. if they persist, tell them you don’t feel like talking.

    dp on the other hand is telling everyone she knows. haha.

  7. Now I kind of leave it on the ‘when it happens, we’ll make sure to tell you know’ note 😉

  8. good alternative! i think i’ll use that one myself!

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